Decision fatigue is like have a crowd of people pulling on you from every possible direction. Or, like a teacher in a classroom managing 30 kids that are going in 30 different directions, asking 30 different questions all while she’s needing to stay focused on learning. Makes me exhausted just thinking about it. Constant distractions and piles of decisions, even if they’re ity bity, will exhaust your brain. You’ll get decision fatigue, and this is the reason why by the end of the day, you’re ready to bite someone’s head off for asking where the milk is. IT’S IN THE REFRIGERATOR!!!!
I’m a mom managing several businesses, kids and family, and everything in between. Let’s talk about decision fatigue. I read an article about habits of successful entrepreneurs. They were talking about men, and how they did things like wearing the same thing everyday. I had to laugh. Really? It made me wonder what their day was really like. Yeah, that’s that’s a good strategy, but then my mind immediately switch to moms: working moms, stay-at-home moms, mom-preneurs, and the endless decisions they must make every day to keep the ship afloat. Not to mention the unbelievable challenges of 2020.
As I write this article, there’s an uptick in entrepreneurship for women, and it’s insanely good. I’m excited about it, because women can now take more control of their destiny. I’m devoted to helping mom-preneurs make healthy, supportive decision for themselves, and learn how to conserve and protect their energy.
Teaching the family to make decisions for themselves, as quickly as possible. I heard this phrase on a podcast, and I immediately adopted it. It’s “use your resources and initiative” or R&I. I began requiring my family to empower themselves. When they asked a question that I knew they could figure out for themselves, I would say, “hmmmm, what do you think? Use your resources and initiative.” This took some time, and the requirements and guidance was age appropriate, of course. They also knew I’d help them if they couldn’t figure it out. It also meant I had to stop the habit of jumping in to fix it, get it done quickly, or do it to my standard. I had to release the reins. This new attitude and practice had another wonderful consequence. My kids self-confidence, and a problem solving attitude blossomed.
Do not disturb! I don’t want to be distracted by the small, mundane requests that my family can clearly handle for themselves, because the truth is, multi-tasking is really damaging for the brain. There’s something called “attention residue” where our attention has been put someplace else, but we haven’t completed what we we’re in the middle of working on. We’ve been distracted, and we’re abruptly going on to the next thing. The brain’s like, “wait, I’m still working on this, and know you want me to focus on that. I’m not happy, because I’m still thinking about what you we’re working on a few minutes ago, and having a hard time switching.”
Pay attention to decision fatigue, and attention residue. How? Step back from things you don’t want to do anymore. Re-write the list of things you no longer need to make decisions about, and post the list for all to see. Make a declaration to your family sharing your new intentions. When somebody comes to you to solve something that they can handle, put it back in their lap. Remind them you’re no longer available. Remind them they’re very capable, and that you’re excited to learn how they solve it. As moms, it’s our inclination to want to just take it all on. We think we can do it better and faster. Reflect on your beliefs to flush out those unhealthy, unsupported thinking and behaviors. View yourself with compassion, and go okay…..I choosing to let it go. Take good care of yourself, dear momma.
I’d love to know what you do to combat decision fatigue, and how you minimize multi-tasking, because I know you know it’s not healthy for your mind, body and spirit.
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