Within this pandemic is a conundrum: how do we address the epidemic of loneliness in the midst of COVID-19, which is so easily spread from person to
person, especially amongst the eldest in populations. A change in language may help… Just as soon as nearly everyone learned the concept of “social distancing,” the World Health Organization (WHO) sent out a message with a more literal take: physical distancing.
While people may be physically removed from visiting family, seeing clients, going to the office or school, eating out, and more, it is being encouraged that people maintain their social connections. Feelings of isolation and loneliness have been found to have physical consequences such as increased risk of depression, heart disease, and even dementia.
For many people, staying connected now occurs online using Zoom, FaceTime or other platforms to have virtual face-to-face conversations. Still, not everyone has embraced modern technology, particularly those over the age of 65, and for these individuals a simple phone call or a card or letter is a good way to maintain contact.
Here are some other ideas for creating connection while being physically apart:
- If you live nearby, drive over and have a “visit” between glass or standing six feet apart. Maybe you can be on the phone and see one another during this time together.
- Plan to watch the same movie, then schedule a time to discuss it. This can be done with as little as two people or larger groups all gathered on a follow-up call to share what they liked or not about the film.
- Ask for advice. People like to feel useful and helpful to others… This might give them a project or something diverting to think about. Maybe there is a favorite dish of theirs you want to try making while you’re at home and they can give you tips? Maybe you need tips on sewing a face mask and they have this skill? Maybe you are searching for a good book to read and wonder if they have a favorite?
- If you are out in the world with your mask on, remember to wave at others you see from a safe distance of six feet to keep up a friendly demeanor and sense of connection.
- Invite other family members to send cards or drawings to an elder loved one who is alone.
As these new routines are established, be sure to keep the same sense of connectivity in place when the safety measures are lifted in the future.
